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I am not a doctor or psychologist. I am like you—a person with hopes, dreams, fears, and insecurities. I have struggled in life to find my place and to be happy. I am not an expert, nor do I ever want to be. I have become a person more concerned about my mental well-being than money, awards, and accolades. They are cool, don’t get me wrong, but not my motivation.

11 Steps For Achieving A Happier Life

With all this being said, I have learned some ways to better my life, ways to be happier and be content. Here is my 11-step plan to figure it out:

1. Exploit your passions.

Find what you love to do and do it. If you can’t do it now for a living, start it as a side hustle. Doing things we love uplifts us and motivates us to be our best.

2. Figure out your purpose.
Ask yourself: What brings me the most feelings of accomplishment and satisfaction? Somewhere in your answer, you will discover your purpose. When I figured out my “why” or purpose, my life and perspective changed.

3. Write out your personal philosophy.

Identify what you value in yourself. Do you want to be healthy and fit? Determine the traits you want in yourself and become that person.

4. Play the daily Mental Game.

Practice gratitude and positive self-talk; read and grow. Exercise your body and mind. Tony Robbins says, “Repetition is the mother of skill.” Work on your mental strength each day.

5. Don’t take no for an answer.

“Seek, and ye shall find. Ask, and it shall be given.” Ask others for help. Search for solutions. People like to help others. Keep asking and you will find it.

6. Love.

In this case, love is a verb. It is an action, not a feeling. Love the good times. Love challenges. Learn to love the tough times. Seeing everything as useful and beneficial makes things good and helpful.

7. Keep running.

Not in the physical sense, but intellectually, mentally, and emotionally keep moving forward.

8. Be humble and vulnerable.

It is liberating not being perfect in front of others. Drop the façade and admit fault, worries, or concerns. People respond well to “realness.” Be a person who doesn’t have all the answers, that has fears, is scared, and can be lost at times.

9. Have integrity with yourself.
Run your own race, not the race of others. Integrity in yourself is sticking to what you want. Integrity, to me, is practicing what I preach regardless if people around me do not agree.

10. Seek pleasure in simple things.
This can be in nature, the sun, naps, exercise, quiet, reading, or whatever you deem a pleasure. Life is complex. Embrace the simple things that are around you each day.

11. Get comfortable being alone with yourself.
Years ago, before getting on the “right” path for me, I sought external attention and validation. I wasn’t comfortable being by myself with my own thinking. I have learned that sometimes being alone is all I need for clarity, joy, and happiness. When alone, it is only you and your world. Your hopes and dreams. You can be any way you want to be. Lazy, tired, active, quiet, or pissed off. When you get comfortable being by yourself, you gain a sense of freedom.

Why is it that we tend to hurt people we care about and in return let them do the same to us? Is it really that hard to avoid hurting the people we love the most?

Some things are worse than others but even the smallest lies can end up being the most painful ones. I guess where the lines blur here is when the pain being inflicted in any form is intentional or not. Someone who inflicts pain on you intentionally is not someone who actually loves and cares about you. Those who actually love and care about you will not do anything on purpose to hurt you. 

Why We Let Those We Love Hurt Us

A lot of the time we hurt the ones we love because we aren’t where we need to be within ourselves and it holds us back. It causes us to be unable to either communicate our feelings properly or be constructive without taking things overboard. I know, this can be frustrating but it does seem to be true. Sometimes we’ve experienced things in our past that cause us in the future to react in ways we perhaps shouldn’t. All of these things can contribute to unknowingly or unintentionally hurting our partners.

The Relationship Institute wrote as follows about this and moving forth:

So what can we do to stop hurting the one we love? We all have to take responsibility for getting clear and resolving our own emotional hurts from the past. We need to learn how to make it safe for our partners to express how they feel. We need to learn how to create a loving presence where we genuinely listen and validate our partners’ experience. We need to learn how to express feelings in ways that bring us closer, not in ways that create more distance and hurt. We may need to do some work together to understand how and why we trigger each other to lash out in hurtful and destructive ways. We need to respect the fact that in an intimate committed relationship, we have access to the most private and vulnerable aspects of each other’s lives. We need to treat that as a sacred privilege that we relate to with the utmost respect, not as an entitlement to trample upon for our own ego gratification.

We are all on a journey of awakening, and intimate relationships provide us with a powerful opportunity to see ourselves and our psychological and spiritual lessons more clearly. We can hide from ourselves, from our therapists, from our bodies, from our spiritual teachers, and from our friends, but we cannot hide from the one we love and who loves us. All of our stuff will eventually come to light through this mysterious and wonderful process we call love. And when it does, we can choose to defend, judge, attack, and run away. Or we can choose to be present, to look inside with acceptance and love for ourselves, and to feel gratitude that this aspect of ourselves has revealed itself. Then can we clearly see that any part of ourselves that hurts others is simply a part of ourselves that needs more love? From this perspective, we hurt the one we love so that we can learn to love ourselves and others more unconditionally, more deeply, and more completely. And by loving and healing ourselves, we ultimately heal our partners’ wounds as well, because we make it safer for them to fully be who they are, and to experience the deeper Oneness and magic that only love can bring to our lives.

We all need to try and grow as best we can in order to protect those we care the most about and live a proper healthy life with them. For instance, if you’re not good at communicating your feelings let your partner know that and try to see what can be done to help you open up more with your partner so that in the end you can become more capable. Growth in this kind of thing is necessary and without it your relationship will be doomed.

Psychology Today wrote as follows on this topic:

There are many cases in which lovers are likely to hurt their beloved without intending to do so. Love is a close and intense relationship. Lovers spend considerable time together, and many activities of each have significant implications for the other person. Naturally, in such circumstances, the lover may unwillingly hurt the beloved. For instance, one may devote a lot of time to work, thereby neglecting, and unwillingly hurting, one’s beloved. In many cases, a by-product of an enjoyable activity to one person is an unpleasant situation for another. The more time two people spend together, the greater the likelihood of such situations. The great significance in our lives of those we love is that these people are both a source of great happiness and deep sadness; they may benefit us as well as hurt us.

The phenomenon of hurting without intending to do so can also be explained by referring to the trust and sincerity which are essential in love. Accordingly, the role of politeness or good manners, which may prevent some kinds of insult, is of less importance in such a relationship, and lovers are less careful in what they say and do. This opens the way for a lover to easily get hurt. The price of being able to behave freely without having to consider every consequence of your deeds is saying and doing hasty things that may hurt your lover.

There are many cases in which we unintentionally hurt our beloved as a result of external circumstances that are beyond our control. Take the case of two lovers who are married to other people, but profoundly in love with each other. The woman, who can and is ready to get divorced, may be hurt by the man’s inability to leave his wife, believing it indicates that his love for her is more superficial than hers for him. However much the man might really want to make her the happiest person in the world, his external circumstances are beyond his control and make him behave in a way that hurts her.

At the end of the day it’s all about focusing on growth and trying to keep your partner’s best interest in mind, isn’t it? We should all be more willing to work through the things that cause us to inflict pain on the people we care about. Through that, we can overcome this problem and perhaps fix things before they’re too late.

Sure, when it comes to love we want to fall for someone who has our best interest at heart but that’s not always so easy in this day and age. A lot of people are toxic wolves in sheep’s clothing, and they will go out of their way to try and make sure we don’t see who they are right off the bat. 

Of course, in the beginning, things were great and you and your partner got along well but as time passed things changed, right? Well, if you’re thinking that your partner may be cheating or being unfaithful overall perhaps you should look for some of the signs. Don’t get me wrong not all relationships that show these signs will play out as cheating scenarios but a lot of them will.

When these signs are present they should make it clear there are issues within the relationship that need to be addressed and sadly it seems more often than not when these things are present there is cheating going on. While you shouldn’t necessarily jump to conclusions, you should take the time to consider it as a possibility and from there talk things out and figure out where to go from there. If you’re not happy with your partner, you shouldn’t be with him/her. 

5 Signs Your Partner Might Be Unfaithful:

1. Intimacy is severely lacking within your relationship.
While to begin with you couldn’t keep your hands off of one another it seems that spark has died out. Intimacy is seemingly nonexistent at this point and you’re not sure why. You didn’t think anything had changed but it really seems like something has.

2. Your partner seems to be hiding things from you.
When someone is cheating they become much more closed off. They end up hiding things from their partner and spending more time out of the house all the while also spending more time on their phones. This in itself is something most people pick up on quickly.

3. It seems like your partner is acting out or being more aggressive/uncomfortable around you.
The more distant someone becomes with their partner and closer to someone else the more on edge they sometimes become. Your partner may seem on edge when around you and really seem to do his or her best to spend time away from you. While this hurts it’s something we all need to be aware of.

4. Communication is lacking big time within the relationship.
At some point, communication between the two of you became very strained. Your partner is hard to get a hold of, and he or she is just uninterested in talking about the issues you’re having. They may brush your concerns off and really leave you doing nothing but wondering.

5. Your partner is more narcissistic as of late.
The more attention your partner is getting elsewhere the more narcissistic he or she may become. This in many ways is their means of justifying what they’re doing but it doesn’t always work. They spend more time working on their looks and less time really caring about your wants or needs.

When anyone dies it is a hard thing to deal with but when you lose a parent, things are much more intense than anyone ever bothers to tell you. I know, everyone says it gets better or easier in time but honestly, it doesn’t.

When we lose one or both of our parents, there is a hole left behind that nothing can fill. It’s something you know will happen someday but are never prepared enough for. It sucks no matter what age you are but honestly, I think it’s worse as an adult. This I think because when we are adults we’ve experienced so much with our parents and seen them struggle, change, grow, and adapt. We’ve had differences and disagreements but overall we’ve also come through things to where we’re more like friends since we’re all of age and able to live our own lives.

Losing A Parent

Sure, at the end of the day they’re still our parents but we’re much closer to them as adults. We can be more open about things and well, on both ends we get to know one another in ways we never would have considered as children. Below I am going to go over some of the things that changed when my mother finally passed and while some of these might sound small, they are the things that make big differences for me.

Death changes us and it really leaves nothing as it was. I know, some people act as if they’re not bothered but deep down on some level they are. This kind of loss for me was tremendous and even now thinking about it makes me feel weak.

12 Things That Changed In Me After Losing My Mother:

1. I now hate hearing other people complain about their parents.

I know people all have different relationships with their parents but now that my mother is gone I hate hearing other people complain about theirs. They just don’t understand how little time they have left with their parents and it grinds me to my core. I know, I have no place to tell them how to act or treat their parents but I cannot help but feel upset over it from time to time.

2. I spend a lot of time talking to my mother even though she’s not here.

Before she passed, sometimes I would be irritated with how much she would call, and now all I wish is that she could call. I find myself speaking to her here and there even though she is not of this Earth anymore. I do not know if she can hear me but I try all the while.

3. I obsessively think of all the things I should have done more of. 

I should have spent more time with her, gone to do things she liked more often but I didn’t. I should have taken her to do all the things she wanted and made sure she lived out the last few years of her life as best as she could but I just lived my life and popped in on here when I could. How could I have been so selfish?

4. I talk about her with anyone who will listen.

She is always on my mind and as a result, a lot of people hear about her. I share her life with anyone who will hear me out and well, it helps. I know, it might sound a bit odd but she was important to me and still is important to me. I want people to know how amazing she was.

5. I no longer have that closeness with her side of the family.

It’s like she was the glue holding us together and now that she is gone we’re just not reaching out to each other. The closeness I once shared with my family members on her side of the family is nowhere near what it once was. Without her here, everything in that area has fallen apart. 

6. I answer my phone no matter the hour.

I never want to miss an important call now. You never know who is calling or if that call might be your last. I know, it might sound odd but turning my phone on do not disturb mode is not an option for me. 

7. I am much more willing to tell those I love that I love them.

Before my mother’s passing, I was not quick to use the L-word but now I am. I will tell those I love that I love them over and over again to make sure they know. I don’t want anyone to wonder how I feel about them.

8. Nothing ever feels the same as it did before.

Everything is different. While some things are more different than others, they’re nowhere near what they were before. It’s like this loss has impacted every possible part of my living and well, it sucks. It sucks, so bad.

9. I am so jealous of those who get to still see their parents.

On Mother’s Day when I see parents with their kids or people getting gifts for their mothers, I don’t get to go see her not like I once did. Now I have to bring her flowers to the graveyard and am so jealous of those who get to be together with their mothers and fathers. Now seeing my father mourning as I am mourning and not knowing how to comfort him and deal with the loss myself, it feels like I’m fighting a losing battle.

10. I feel a lot of guilt that I cannot quite let go of.

There are things I wish I did and things I wish I didn’t do. Every little mistake I made bothers me and I just want my mother back. Missing her is something I never knew would be so crippling.

11. I feel like part of myself is missing.

Now, before all of this happened, I always thought something was missing but now I know something is missing and that I was much more whole before this loss than after. Without my mother around, things are much colder and I am not necessarily even the same person. I’ve lost myself through losing her.

12. I am no longer as strong as I once was.

Losing my mother showed me how truly weak I am. I am not who I thought I was and I doubt I ever will be. I have a lot of pain to deal with and honestly, it doesn’t feel like it will ever go away.

Allow Yourself to Cry, It Doesn’t Make You Weak, It Makes You Emotionally Intelligent

Many people believe that if they openly express their emotions, it’s a sign of their weakness and they’d rather keep them to themselves and look strong in front of others. But why is bottling up your emotions better than facing them head on?

We’ve become so afraid to show emotions because we think it will make us vulnerable to the world. Society has made us believe that opening up will lead to us getting hurt, that others will take advantage of us and that it’s so much better to just make everyone believe that nothing can touch us.

And it’s completely understandable to be scared, there are people who will want to take advantage of us, there will be people who will want to hurt us or make fun of us. But we shouldn’t let the cruel people of this world dictate our behavior. After all, bottling up your emotions is really detrimental for our mental health so if not for other reasons, we need to learn to express our emotions for the sake of our sanity.

Instead of locking our feelings up, hiding our emotions and pretending that everything is just fine, we need to shout out loud that we’re not OK. We need to show the world that even though we’re strong and independent, it’s OK if we cry sometimes because ignoring those feelings will only increase our pain and maybe even lead to depression.

We need to stop thinking that crying will make us weak because it’s not a sign of weakness but a sign of emotional intelligence. Crying can actually help you process your feelings and promote your mental and physical health. Expressing your feelings means that you’re not scared to face them and it makes you stronger. Crying openly in front of others just shows that you’re strong enough to face your deepest emotions. It means that you’ve matured emotionally and that you can face every challenge that comes in front of you without fear.

Moreover, crying helps you let go of all the negative emotions you’ve been keeping to yourself and helps you channel the pain and anger in a healthy way. Letting it all out makes you calm and you feel immediate relief, no matter what caused you to start crying in the first place. It gives you the mental cleanse you so desperately need so that you can restore your inner peace and feel yourself again.

Crying promotes your physical health as well, it helps you relieve stress, improves your sleep quality and even improves your vision too. It helps fight the bad bacteria in your body and boosts your immune system.

Moreover, crying in front of others encourages them to face their own feelings and shows them that there’s nothing wrong with being open about how you really feel. The people closest to you can see that embracing their feelings is not something they need to fear or be ashamed of. When you let your emotions run their natural course, you inspire others to do the same.

There’s nothing wrong with crying or expressing your emotions, once you accept this, you’ll feel relieved and liberated.

We all experience circumstances that make us want to blame others, some sort of god, life, or whatever—anyone but ourselves.

We have a difficult relationship and it’s their fault if we are not able to connect with them. Life throws a bad punch at us and it’s bad karma. The queue at the counter is annoyingly long and we blame the staff for not being efficient enough. Our last Instagram post gets fewer likes, so they must have changed the algorithm again.

Hold Yourself Accountable

Although it’s important to go easy on yourself and simply accept the fact that things sometimes just don’t work out the way you expected, you also need to hold yourself accountable and take responsibility for your own life.

You are responsible for your relationships, for your “bad karma”, for letting a long queue annoy you, for not getting the social media engagement you’d like.

Because if you are not responsible, you are not going to take care of your problems. And if you are not, then who?

Once you fully understand this, you can decide to take action to fix what needs to be fixed or let go and move on, not from a place of anger, but from a place of humility.

Sometimes there isn’t much you can do to change your circumstances, but what you can do is change the way you perceive things and your feelings towards them.

No matter what, you can always decide your attitude toward life. So in a way, you are always in control.

Being stuck is never your fault, but getting unstuck is always your responsibility.

Why We Blame Others

Blame is a very common device to escape responsibility and protect ourselves from pain by pointing the finger to other people.

But the relief we may feel it’s only temporary, as doing so prevents us from actively finding solutions to our problems.

As the Buddhist monk Ajahn Chah once said, “Blaming someone else for your suffering is like having a hitch on your head and scratching your bottom. So now you have two hitches for the price of one.”

And there we are again, scratching around the same old hole, blaming someone who wronged us, some greater force, or society in general, if things don’t turn out the way we wanted, when all it takes is a tiny switch in our mindset.

How We Take Responsibility

Blaming doesn’t work. It leads to inevitable suffering.

By projecting responsibilities outward, we leave ourselves feeling powerless. If we never feel responsible, we don’t take action to change the things that are within our control.

So the unwanted circumstances persist and the cycle of frustration continues.

When we realize that pointing the finger doesn’t help, it’s natural to turn the blame to ourselves. However, this just makes us feel incompetent and damages our self-esteem in the long run. It’s not sustainable and it’s not healthy.

The idea here is to simply let go of the word blame, to release any negativity in it, and to just take hold of our responsibility and accept the situation as it is. This gives us the strength to move forward.

By taking honest, humble responsibility, we break the cycle of blame and realize that only we can change the situation because it is our situation.

Next time you are stuck into uncertainty, remember that you are a powerful force of nature and that it will pass as long as you take full responsibility for it.

Because this is how you grow stronger and move forward: by taking full responsibility for your own life.

Being stuck is never your fault, but getting unstuck is always your responsibility.

With a wide range of eggplant varieties to choose from, it’s no secret that they’re the perfect addition to just about any meal. Interestingly enough, eggplant have a similar texture to tomatoes, making them perfect for soups, stews and even barbequing!

You might be surprised to learn that this delicious fruit is not only full of flavor, but it also packs a punch when it comes to health benefits. Here are 7 surprising benefits you’ll experience if you include eggplant in your regular diet.

Surprising Health Benefits of Eating Eggplant


The vitamin & mineral content of eggplants is quite extensive. They’re a great source of vitamin C, vitamin K, vitamin B6, thiamine, niacin, magnesium, manganese, phosphorus, copper, fiber, folic acid, potassium, and more!


The high fiber content in eggplants, which is a crucial element to maintaining a balanced diet, is a great way to improve your gastrointestinal health. This means that when you’ve gotta go, eating eggplant regularly will help everything move along smoothly!


The fiber in eggplants does more than just aid in the digestion process, it also helps to improve your heart health! This is because fiber reduces the amount of cholesterol that your body absorbs by binding it with your digestive system’s bile so that your body naturally gets rid of it.


Antioxidants are one of the human body’s best defenses against diseases like cancer, as well as many other potential infections. One of the many benefits of eating eggplant is that you are also ingesting the natural antioxidant, manganese. By having a high level of antioxidants like manganese in your body, it will help ensure that your organs are protected.


The unique coloration of an eggplant is more useful than simply being pretty to look at. The natural plant compounds that create this coloration have actually been linked to reduced osteoporosis, stronger bones, and even increased bone density. Additionally, the iron and calcium found in eggplants are crucial improving and preserving overall bone health.


Not getting enough iron in your diet can be very dangerous to your health. In some cases, iron deficiency can result in anemia, which is characterized by a general feeling of tiredness and weakness caused by not having enough healthy red blood cells to carry oxygen throughout your body. Eating foods like eggplant that are high in iron can help combat health conditions like anemia.


Eggplants are rich in natural chemicals called phytonutrients, which have been known to improve mental health. This benefit is a result of increased blood flow throughout the body and into the brain. By delivering more blood to the brain, phytonutrients help boost memory by stimulating your neural pathways to develop.

It's the research we've all been waiting for: five amazing health benefits of cheese, according to science.

Say what? Cheese might actually be good for you? Old-school thinking is that cheese is unhealthy, in large part because of all its saturated fat. But newer research calls into question the link between saturated fat and heart disease. In fact, eating cheese (nibbling, not gorging) is linked with numerous health benefits. Here are 5 health benefits of cheese.

Cheese health benefits

1. Cuts Your Heart Disease Risk

Some researchers think cheese might explain the so-called French Paradox-that French people have low rates of heart disease despite their affinity for cheese and other saturated fat–rich foods, such as butter and duck. Then there's a 2016 report that analyzed results from 31 prospective cohort studies (the ones that watch people throughout their lives) that compared how much dairy people ate to whether they developed cardiovascular disease. One major finding was that eating nearly 2 ounces of cheese daily (1 ounce equals a 1-inch cube) was associated with an 18 percent lower risk of heart disease. Writing in the British Journal of Nutrition, the authors propose that minerals like calcium, potassium and magnesium and vitamins like riboflavin and B12 may play a role. Another key finding: eating as little as 1/2 ounce of cheese a day could cut stroke risk by 13 percent.

2. Fends Off Diabetes

Eating 1 3/4 ounces of cheese a day may lower your risk of developing type 2 diabetes by 8 percent, says an analysis of cohort studies in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition. There's more good news from the same study-people who ate about 3/4 cup of yogurt daily had even lower risk. Another study in AJCN, this one out of Sweden, found that women who ate just under 2 ounces of cheese also lowered their type 2 diabetes risk. The shorter-chain saturated fats in cheese were linked to lower risk of type 2 diabetes. Also, calcium-which increases insulin secretion and may reduce insulin resistance-may fend off the disease, say researchers. Whey proteins might play a role, too, as they may increase insulin sensitivity.

Cheese health benefits

3. Helps You Dodge Death

OK, that's extreme. But eating cheese really may help you live longer, per a 2016 study in the European Journal of Clinical Nutrition, which followed 960 French men for almost 15 years to see whether the foods they ate had any relationship to when they died. The happy finding? Eating about 2 ounces of cheese a day was associated with a 38 percent lower likelihood that they died during the study. Perhaps calcium's blood pressure–lowering effects play a role or its ability to curb fat absorption in the gut, write the researchers.

4. Improves Your Cholesterol

Keeping with heart health, a daily snack of cheese may lower your cholesterol. A 2015 analysis of randomized controlled trials (research's gold standard) in Nutrition Reviews compared the blood cholesterol of people eating a prescribed diet that included butter or cheese. Although both diets had about the same amount of saturated fat and calories, the cheese eaters ended their trials with lower total and LDL cholesterol than their butter-eating counterparts. Their "good" HDL cholesterol was also lower, though-the opposite of what you want. The cholesterol changes could be due to calcium's ability to ferry fat through your gut so you don't absorb it and its associated calories (the amount of calcium is much greater in cheese than in butter). Vitamin K2, found in fermented dairy products like cheese, may also play a role.

5. Makes You Stronger

Eating almost a cup of ricotta cheese a day for 12 weeks boosted muscle mass and improved balance in healthy adults over 60. The researchers of the study-published in 2014 in Clinical Interventions in Aging-said that the milk proteins casein and whey may have fueled the improvement.

If you’ve ever visited Mexico, Central America or the Caribbean, you may have been introduced to a delicious little fruit called the guava. Native to these tropical regions, the guava is a very popular fruit that’s been associated with a number of valuable health benefits.

Guavas are known for their sweet, tangy flavor and variety of uses ranging from guava juice to guava jelly, but there’s much more to this fruit than meets the eye. In fact, it’s also been linked to a long list of health benefits, including improved heart health, enhanced immune function, decreased blood sugar levels and more.

This article will cover everything you need to know about this tasty tropical fruit and how it can impact your health.

Guava, Powerful Antioxidant

What Is Guava?

Guava is a type of fruit that is native to tropical regions like Central and South America, Mexico and the Caribbean. Also known as Psidium guajava, which is the guava scientific name, this tropical fruit is also loaded with important nutrients.

Guavas have been dubbed the “ultimate superfood” and are widely considered one of the top antioxidant foods, supplying loads of vitamin C and lycopene in each serving.

The guava taste can range from very sweet to sour, depending on how ripe the fruit is, and there are tons of different options for how to eat guava. Aside from being a great snack when eaten raw, ingredients like guava paste can also be used in cooking and baking.

Its leaves, seeds and skin can also be eaten or used medicinally. One of the most common methods for how to use guava leaves involves steeping them in boiling water to make a soothing and delicious cup of tea.

Today, the guava is grown in warm, tropical climates all over the world. The guava tree is gregarious and tend to grow easily and freely, often overgrowing pastures and fields. In countries where it is produced, it tends to be inexpensive due to its widespread availability.

Keep in mind that guavas are not related to other fruits with similar names such as strawberry guava or pineapple guava. Although they are often confused, all three belong to different species of plants.
Nutrition Facts

Many of the powerful health benefits of guava are attributed to its rich nutrient profile. In fact, guavas are low in calories and are loaded with vitamin C, folate, copper, potassium and fiber.

100 grams of guava fruit contains the following nutrients:
  • 68 calories
  • 14 grams carbohydrate
  • 3 grams protein
  • 5 grams fiber
  • 228.3 milligrams vitamin C (254 percent DV)
  • 0.2 milligrams copper (22 percent DV)
  • 49 micrograms folate (12 percent DV)
  • 417 milligrams potassium (9 percent DV)
  • 22 milligrams magnesium (5 percent DV)
  • 40 milligrams phosphorus (3 percent DV)
  • 624 International Units vitamin A (3 percent DV)

Health Benefits

1. Boosts the Immune System

Surprisingly, a serving of guava provides over 250 percent of the daily recommended amount of vitamin C, making it one of the best vitamin C foods available.

Vitamin C is well-known for its immune-boosting benefits. It aids in the prevention of cell damage thanks to its antioxidant properties, which also helps prevent many diseases, including serious conditions like heart disease, arthritis and cancer.

A 2012 study in Pakistan concluded that fully ripe guava contained the most concentrated content of vitamin C, so it’s best to enjoy the mature fruit to get the most bang for your buck.

2. Regulates Blood Pressure

Thanks to its high potassium levels, some research shows that guava fruit could help naturally lower blood pressure and blood lipids. Potassium is crucial for keeping your heart healthy and strong and plays a key role in regulating blood pressure levels. Plus, getting your fix of this important micronutrient may also help protect against kidney stones, stroke and bone loss.

3. Great Source of Fiber

Guava fruit is one of the best high-fiber foods available, providing over 20 percent of the daily value for fiber. Not only that, but guava also contains edible seeds that are packed with fiber as well.

Fiber helps support regularity by adding bulk to the stool to ease its passage out of the body. Additionally, it can even help lower blood sugar levels, keep high blood pressure in check and aid in weight loss by helping you stay fuller for longer between meals.

4. Rich in Antioxidants

In 2011, a study by Hyderabad’s National Institute of Nutrition in India investigated the antioxidant characteristics of a number of fruits including apples, bananas, grapes and more. Interestingly enough, the study concluded that guava fruit packed the greatest antioxidant punch compared to other fruit.

Antioxidants are powerful compounds that can neutralize free radicals to protect against cell damage and chronic disease. Some research suggests that upping your intake of antioxidants could potentially aid in the prevention of common conditions like heart disease, cancer and diabetes.

5. Fights Cancer Cell Growth

Lycopene is a powerful antioxidant that is plentiful in guava fruit. In fact, one serving provides over half of your daily supply of lycopene.

This potent carotenoid has a strong and proven reputation as a cancer fighter thanks to its ability to inhibit the growth of multiple types of cancer cells.

According to one study published in PLoS One, increased consumption of lycopene could be tied to a reduced risk of prostate cancer. Other research shows that lycopene could slow the growth and spread of lung cancer cells as well.

6. Stabilizes Blood Sugar Levels

Guava leaf has long been used in traditional folk medicine to reverse diabetes naturally in East Asia and other areas.

Aside from being a healthy and fiber-rich snack for those with type 2 diabetes, animal models suggest that guava leaf extract could help reduce blood sugar levels while also improving glucose metabolism.

7. Help Treat Diarrhea

Some animal models have found that guava leaf extract could be an effective treatment for infectious diarrhea. This method has been used in rural communities all over the world to treat gastrointestinal infections and is successful in part because of the plant’s astringency.

Although it’s unclear exactly how guava leaf works to prevent and treat these issues, it is thought to be due to the antimicrobial and antibacterial capabilities of the plant.

8. Reduces Inflammation

Guava leaf extract has anti-inflammatory qualities thanks to the presence of flavonoids, which are compounds that act as antioxidants to help scavenge free radicals in the body. Inflammation is at the core of most illness and disease and including a variety of foods and supplements that relieve inflammation in your diet can help promote better health.

9. Protects Against Fatty Buildup in Arteries

Because of guava leaf’s anti-inflammatory and antioxidant properties, it may aid in the prevention of atherosclerosis, a condition characterized by the build-up of fatty plaque in the arteries.

According to an in vitro study published in the journal Food Chemistry, guava leaf tea could help block the activity of a specific enzyme responsible for the onset of atherosclerosis, which could potentially help improve heart health and protect against disease.

10. Possesses Antimicrobial Properties

Some research shows that guava leaves could possess powerful antibacterial and antifungal properties. In fact, an in vitro study in 2010 noted that guava leaf could potentially aid in the treatment of conditions such as cough, diarrhea, oral ulcers and inflamed gums.

Other studies have demonstrated that guava leaf could exert antibacterial activity against diarrhea in cases where antibiotics may not be available.

In folk medicine, guava leaves are often crushed and applied topically to treat open wounds and ulcers.

11. Supports Male Fertility

One of the most promising health benefits of guava is its effect on male fertility. For example, an animal model out of Nigeria investigated the connection between guava leaves and fertility and found that the leaves helped improve sperm count and motility compared to a control group.

Side Effects

A 2017 review in the International Journal of Molecular Sciences concluded that the fruit and leaves of guava are not associated with any significant side effects and can be consumed safely by most healthy adults.

Furthermore, despite the common belief that eating guava at night could have adverse effects on health, there is no actual evidence to support this. Therefore, you can easily enjoy any part of the fruit, seeds or leaves at any time of day.

However, you should consult with your doctor before using guava leaf extract or other guava supplements, especially if you have any underlying medical conditions or are pregnant or breastfeeding.

If you experience any adverse effects like itching, rash or hives after consuming guava, discontinue use immediately and talk to a trusted healthcare professional to address any concerns.

Final Thoughts
  • Guava can be eaten whole as the seeds, skin and flesh are all edible. Each part contains essential nutrients to support better health.
  • In particular, guavas are a great source of fiber, vitamin C, copper and folate as well as many other important micronutrients and antioxidants.
  • The fruit and leaves have been linked to a number of guava health benefits, including better immune function, enhanced fertility and decreased cancer cell growth.
  • Other potential health benefits of guava include lower blood glucose and blood pressure levels, reduced inflammation and decreased fatty plaque build-up.
  • Although the fruit and leaves can be consumed with minimal risk of adverse side effects, it’s best to talk to your doctor before using supplementation if you are pregnant, nursing or have any underlying health conditions.
Because we regularly interact with our fellow humans, run-ins with rude people are inevitable. While we might encounter unpleasant comments or actions in our day-to-day activities, the usual culprits are people we see on a regular basis. Whether at work, school, or home, stinging remarks from those closest to us can have especially negative effects.

Although some people are skillful at dodging rudeness, most of us find it difficult not to retaliate in return. When your mom asks, “When are you going to have a stable relationship?” or your coworker comments, “You should really try (X, Y, Z) diet plan,” your natural response may be a snarky comeback. However, stooping to the level of rude people can compound negative feelings. Taking the high road while replying honestly is possible–and brings greater satisfaction than verbally sparring.

Dealing with Rude People

An ancient proverb says, “A mild answer turns away rage, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” To diffuse a tense situation, try these 9 comebacks for dealing with rude people. You may find that these simple responses leave you feeling positive rather than shamed or angry. 

9 Comebacks For Dealing With Rude People

1. Say “Thank You”

When you thank someone, you’re maintaining your dignity while not engaging in rude behavior back. For example, a comment of “you’ve gained a lot of weight” could be met with, “thank you for letting me know.” This effectively ends the conversation politely, while showing that you won’t engage in rude behavior.

2. Let Them Know You Appreciate Their Opinion

Along the lines of expressing thankfulness, telling some you appreciate their opinion is another high-road path. If someone says, “You’re crazy if you’re willing to spend (dollar amount) on that car,” simply let them know you appreciate their opinion. At the same time, you can add that you’ve done your research and are prepared for the cost. This works on many rude statements or requests for information that the person shouldn’t be privy to.

3. End The Conversation

If the rudeness of an encounter is escalating, you can simply end the conversation. Doing this will allow you to exit the exchange before you say something you’ll regret.

4. Turn It Around With A Question

Sometimes, people don’t realize their inquiries are overly personal or rude. A great way to counter rudeness is to ask them why they felt the need to ask that question. This can help the person to realize what they said was inappropriate, giving them insight into their own impolite behavior. It also shows that you did not appreciate their commentary, and sets your boundaries for the future.

5. A (Slightly) Sarcastic Comeback
A simple retort? “That almost hurt my feelings.” While there is a tinge of sarcasm, it also shows you’re mature enough to look past the remark. At the same time, it exposes a rude comment for what it is, and may alert the person to their own bad behavior.

6. “You’re Right.”
This is a great way to disengage. Rude people tend to derive enjoyment from snarky digs at others; this statement essentially robs them of a reaction from you. For example, if the person says, “Those shorts make you look fat,” simply respond with, “You’re right.” It’s a clever, amusing way of ending the conversation.

7. Expose Their Negativity
When rude people throw shade your way, answer with something like, “You always have something negative to say, don’t you?” This immediately flips the focus from you to them. You may just open their eyes to behavior they were oblivious to while standing up for yourself at the same time.

8. When Dealing With Loved Ones

When those closest to you–a spouse, sibling, or parent–says something rude, try diffusing their words with love. Saying, “I love myself, and I love you too” can be a great response to unkind words. It can also remind the person of the loving bond that should exist between you–of which rudeness shouldn’t be apart of.

9. Just Laugh

Laughing at a rude comment shows that no negativity can destroy your inner peace. It might leave them annoyed or bewildered, but you’ll be making a statement that their words can’t hurt you. (2)

While we’ll invariably encounter rude people throughout our lives, using these 9 comebacks will help you enjoy greater inner peace and may just help others improve their own behavior.

These small but important romantic gestures will pay off big time.

If you want to know how to make your girlfriend happy, the first thing to know is that it's probably not as hard a task as you might think. Unfortunately, many men struggle to come up with ideas for cute things they can say or do when they want to make a girl smile.

If you love a woman, know that you simply must find ways to let her know what's going on in your mind and heart. Making a conscious effort purely for the sake of making her feel so happy she smiles whenever she thinks about you will have you off to an excellent start.

Meaningful Ways To Make Your Girlfriend Happy

We compiled this list of meaningful ways to show your love to help you make sure the woman in your life knows how special she is to you (which means you now have no excuses, gentlemen!).

Here are 30 meaningful things to do for a woman that are bound to make her think you're the most romantic guy on Earth.

How to Make Your Girlfriend Happy

1. Text or call her to say goodnight.
Send her a cute goodnight text or give her a quick call before either of you go to bed. She'll love knowing you're thinking of her and that you're making sure she knows she's always on your mind. This one will send her to sleep with a smile on her face every time.

2. Text or call her to say good morning.
As with the goodnight messages, sending her a cute good morning text will get her day started off right. If texting works best for you both, trying send your message once you're sure she's fast asleep so your sweet words will be the first thing she sees when she wakes up and looks at her phone.

3. Tell her she's beautiful.
Call her beautiful instead of saying she's pretty or cute. These words may all seem like they mean the same thing to you, but the distinction is a big one. Hearing you tell her she's beautiful let's her know she's exactly your type and that you wouldn't want her to look any other way.a

4. Buy her something meaningful.
Most everyone loves getting gifts, especially when they come as a surprise and seemingly for no reason. You don't need to break the bank. In fact, an inexpensive gifts that shows her you get her can mean so much more than an expensive gift that she'd never want for herself no matter what the cost.

5. Promise that you'll never let her go (and keep that promise).
Make sure she knows that you're afraid to lose her and that you'll do what it takes (within self-respecting reason, of course) to make sure that never happens.

6. Treat her the same when your friends are around as you do when the two of you are alone.
Don't make the dreaded mistake of trying to play it super cool in front of the guys at her expense. If you usually hold her hand when it's just the two of you, hold her hand when your friends come along. If you tell her you love her before you get off the phone, tell her you love her when your friends are there with you, too.

Being consistent will let her know you mean what you say and that you're someone she can rely on — and that will make her happy.

7. Be there when she needs you.
We all need to know our partner will be there for us in the good times and in the bad. In order to feel happy with you, she needs to know that you have her back and that you'll be there by her side when she's going through some things.

8. Send her random texts to say you're thinking about her.

Yes, more texting. Feeling connected to you throughout the day will make her feel happy, because she'll know you're with her all day, even when you're not together in person. You can save the deeper, more important conversations for when you're together or over the phone, but a short, sweet text will remind her that you like her as much as she likes you.

9. Make sure the people who are important to you know who she is and vice versa.
If your family and friends don't know who she is or how special she is to you, it will make her question the very foundation of what you have together, and for good reason. She should know who it is that means the most to you in life, and likewise, they should know her.

10. Make her a priority, not an option.
Make sure she knows it matters to you (a lot!) whether or not you get to see her, talk to her, do things with her, etc. If she's feels like you may always be on the verge of turning down time with her to do something else, it will be hard for her to feel happy as your girlfriend for very long.

11. Spend the evening just watching movies and cuddling with her.
If she knows you're just as happy to chill with her at home as you are when the two of you go out, it will make her feel secure that you're with her because you really like her and not just because she's someone to do things with.

12. Be a gentleman.
Help her with her coat. Pull out her chair at the dinner table. Open the door for her. Stay off of your phone when she's talking to you. Showing her you are considerate and well-mannered will make her feel happy to be someone who knows how to handle himself like a grown up.

13. Be willing to compromise sometimes.
Occasionally backing down in an argument, even when she may be wrong, will show her you're emotionally mature and in control of yourself. You shouldn't cave in all the time or give up on issues that are deeply important to you, but trying to win fights just for the sake of winning rarely does a couple any good. Be willing to wave the white flag sometimes and she'll be so happy you probably won't fight as often.

14. Be proactive when making plans.
Plan something fun the two of you can do together and let her know that all she has to do is show up and enjoy herself. She'll love having a chance to not worry about the details, relax, and appreciate how special you are.

Meaningful Ways To Make Your Girlfriend Happy

15. Be respectful.
Respect her. Respect her family. Respect her friends. Respect her morals. People who feel respected in their relationships are far more like to feel happy than those who don't.

16. Slow dance with her, even if there's no music.
Honestly, it doesn't get much more romantic than that. And there's not much that makes a girl happier than a boyfriend who knows how to be sweet and romantic.

17. Show her affection.
Sneak up behind her, hug her around her waist, kiss her softly on the neck and tell her you love her. Physical touch is deeply important in human connections, as it causes our bodies to produce oxytocin, the hormone associated with love and happiness.

18. Believe in her.
Support her ambitions and love her flaws. Let her know you have absolute faith in her ability to achieve whatever it is she sets her mind on.

19. Be someone she can trust.
Make sure she knows there is no reason for her to doubt that you are and will be faithful. Make sure your word can be trusted, that you are consistent and that she doesn't have to worry about you potentially betraying her.

20. Give her your hoodie when she's cold. Then let her keep it.
She'll appreciate your generosity in the moment as you loving keep her warm, and then later she'll be able to wrap herself in it and feel like she's there in your arms.

21. Write her a sweet, handwritten love note.
The best love letters are the ones that come straight from the heart. Write her a sweet message that lets her know you love her and why. She won't be able to stop smiling.

22. Fight for her when she's ready to give up.
Hold her tight when she's at her weakest. Be her protector and make her feel safe.

23. Have her back if someone speaks badly about her.
Never let others have a negative influence on your feelings for her or on your intentions for the relationship. If someone you care about and respect says something about her that gives you pause, talk with her about it instead of confronting her as though you've already decided she's done something wrong.

24. Hold her tight when others are looking.
You don't have to go full-out with the PDA, but do make sure she knows that you're proud of her and want other people to know you're together and loving with one another.

25. Always be willing to take the first step.
Don't wait for her to start everything. If you know you both want to get a new car, do some research and show her what you've found. If you've talked about taking up a new hobby together, write down a list of things you'd like to try and share with her. You don't have to do it alone, and you shouldn't, but taking the first step will let her know you're excited to be on the journey called life with her.

26. Bring her roses or flowers for no reason at all.
Not just when you're in trouble or on Valentine's Day. Like the gift-giving mentioned above, bringing her a store bought or hand-picked bouquet of flowers is a loving gesture sure to delight her.

27. Offer to give her a massage.

Foot, back, neck, shoulder, or even her whole body. The key here is to make it a real massage that lasts at least more than just a minute, as well as to expect nothing from her in return. You'll help her relax, make her happy, and she'll be sure to return the favor on her own without any cajoling from you.

28. Avoid responding with just "OK."
Or any short answer that makes it sound like you weren't listening, you don't care, or you're annoyed. This is especially important when you're communicating over text and tone can easily be misinterpreted.

29. Ask her if she's lost weight.

Not that her weight should be an issue, and not that she needs to lose any weight to make you or herself happy, but if most of us are honest with ourselves, it's hard not to feel just a tiny bit giddy when some you're attracted to asks you if you have.

30. Save a photo of her as your phone background.
That way she'll know you're thinking of her every time you look at your phone. And she'll also know that anyone else who sees your phone knows about her.

Celery belongs to the Umbelliferae family and is a highly nutritious vegetable that can be of two varieties, white and green. It can grow to the height of up to 16 inches, and its ribs are crunchy and salty.

Celery is a rich source of fiber, and its leaves are abundant in vitamin A. Also, the stems are rich in potassium, calcium, magnesium, sodium, iron, phosphorus, vitamins B1, B2, B6 and C, and numerous essential amino acids.

 Celery Juice

A cup of chopped, raw celery (about 101 grams) contains:
  • 16.2 calories
  • 3.5 grams carbohydrates
  • 0.7 gram protein
  • 0.2 gram fat
  • 1.6 grams fiber
  • 29.6 micrograms vitamin K (37 percent DV)
  • 453 international units (9 percent DV)
  • 263 milligrams potassium (8 percent DV)
  • 3.1 milligrams vitamin C (5 percent DV)
  • 36.5 micrograms folate (9 percent DV)
  • 40.4 milligrams calcium (4 percent DV)
  • 0.1 milligram riboflavin (3 percent DV)
  • 11.1 milligrams magnesium (3 percent DV)
  • 0.1 milligram manganese (5 percent DV)
  • 0.1 milligram vitamin B6 (4 percent DV)
As well as vitamin E, niacin, pantothenic acid, iron, phosphorus, zinc and selenium.

When it comes to the antioxidant nutrients it contains, it is important to mention that celery is abundant in phytonutrients, many of which fall into the category of phenolic antioxidants and have powerful anti-inflammatory benefits:

-- Phenolic acids
  • caffeic acid
  • caffeoylquinic acid
  • cinnamic acid
  • coumaric acid
  • ferulic acid

-- Flavones
  • apigenin
  • luteolin

-- Flavonols
  • quercetin
  • kaempferol

-- Dihydrostilbenoids
  • lunularin

-- Phytosterols
  • beta-sitosterol

-- Furanocoumarins
  • bergapten
  • psoralen
 Celery Juice

Studies have found that celery improves health in various ways, as follows:
  • Celery juice rehydrates the body and provides high electrolyte levels, so it is great after a workout;
  • Celery juice lowers total cholesterol and LDL (bad) cholesterol;
  • It contains at least 8 families of anti-cancer compounds, including acetylenics, which stop the growth of tumor cells, phenolic acids, which inhibit the action of prostaglandins that stimulate the growth of tumor cells, and coumarins which prevent free radical damage
  • Celery juice is rich in minerals that regulate the pH levels of the blood and neutralize acidity;
  • The organic sodium in celery lowers blood pressure, while the phthalides it contains relax the muscles around arteries and improve blood flow;
  • Celery has natural laxative effects that treat constipation;
  • Celery juice is rich in sodium and potassium that stimulate the production of urine and prevent water retention;
  • Celery juice suppresses appetite and helps weight loss;
  • The consumption of celery juice during dry and hot weather will normalize body temperature and cool your body;
  • The polyacetylene in celery fights inflammation and treats rheumatoid arthritis, osteoarthritis, gout, asthma, and bronchitis;
  • Celery detoxifies the body and prevents the formation of kidney stones;
  • Celery juice effectively eliminates gallbladder and urinary stones;
  • Celery soothes the nervous system and treats insomnia;
  • Celery juice is rich in flavones that lower blood sugar levels and prevent sugar spikes.
When buying celery, choose green celery, due to the chlorophyll they contain, and pick the firm ribs. Keep celery in a sealed container or wrap in a plastic bag, in the fridge.

If you are feeling down, get your trowel out because there is a recent development connecting home gardening and well-being. The May 2020 study conducted by experts at Princeton and the University of Minnesota has concluded that home gardening is just as emotionally fulfilling as other leisure activities such as biking and walking.

Gardening Health Benefits

The study published in the scientific journal Landscape and Urban Planning asked "Is gardening associated with greater happiness of urban residents?" and examined subjects in the Minneapolis-St. Paul area. Scientists delved into the question in detail and discovered based on their evidence that gardening was among the top 5 out of 15 activities they looked at. 

Gardening Health Benefits

Compared to those other activities, gardening was statistically on the same level as biking, walking, and eating out. Moreover, the effect of gardening was higher for vegetable gardeners (vs ornamental), low-income gardeners, and for women. The significance of this particular finding was explained by one of the authors:
“This has implications for equity in food action planning considering that people with lower incomes tend to have less access to healthy food options,” said one of the study's author Anu Ramaswami in a press release by Princeton University. “Gardening could provide the health benefits of fresh fruits and vegetables, promote physical activity, and support emotional well-being, which can reinforce this healthy behavior," he continued.

Gardening Health Benefits

Lead author Graham Ambrose points out factors that did not affect levels of happiness in the study which included race, companionship, and suburban or urban settings. You can see these significant results in a visual way in the study's infographic, found here

Gardening Health Benefits

Are you incorporating gardening into your emotional well-being plan? Give it a try, maybe the next time you grow a vegetable it will give you a great deal of satisfaction.

Our content is created to the best of our knowledge, yet it is of general nature and cannot in any way substitute an individual consultation by your doctor. Your health is important to us!

People say that you should never think too much about your past, and let it be because you cannot change it. They also say that there’s no point in thinking about stuff that has happened before, and you should always focus on the present, and your past doesn’t define who you are.

What if you want to move on from your past, but some unresolved emotional wounds in your childhood is preventing you from doing so? What then?

All the things that you have experienced in your past have shaped you to be who you are today, so how is it possible to entirely forget all of it, and simply just move on?

If you have experienced emotional pain, and emotional wounds in the past, even today it can be difficult to just let them go, and forget all about them. If you don’t treat these wounds properly, and just put a band-aid on them, it is bound to keep hurting you over and over again. The emotional wounds that have been inflicted on you in your childhood will continue to reside in your unconscious mind.

Childhood Emotional Wounds

Here Are 3 Types Of Emotional Wounds In Childhood That Keep You Stuck

1. Emotional wounds that are related to your independence.

Emotional wounds associated with independence tend to crop up when someone in your life tries to dominate you, and control your freedom. If you have given someone a very important place in your life, depending on the kind of person they are, they might end up misusing it, and try to curb your freedom, just because they want to, and they think that they should. This can end up striking a huge blow to your sense of independence, and personal space.

As a child, if your freedom has been severely limited by your parents, and your decision-making capabilities have been questioned time and again, it will make you feel unsure about yourself, even when you are an adult. This can also happen if someone continuously disagrees with you, rejects you, and demands answers from you even for the smallest, and harmless things. Another vital reason for this is also when someone makes you feel incompetent, incapable, and useless.

These harsh emotional wounds in your childhood can have a massive impact on your psyche, even when you have stepped into your adulthood. You might struggle when it comes to making decisions, and also when you need to take initiative about something. This results in you turning into a pushover, and a submissive person. Your indecisiveness, and passive nature, leads controlling people to use it to their advantage, and they will constantly make you dance to their tunes, without giving any kind of regard whatsoever to your feelings.

Give people importance in your life, but don’t give them the reins to it. This is your life, and you should never give anyone the power to decide what you should, or shouldn’t do.

2. Emotional wounds that are related to self-esteem.

If you have faced countless rejections in your past, it can seriously mess with your self-development, and self-love as an adult. Rejections are never easy to deal with and can lead to a lot of mental, and emotional suffering.

Consistent and harmful rejections from family and loved ones, especially when you were a child, can lead to massive self-confidence issues, and deep emotional wounds, that end up being extremely hard to move away from. Blaming, shaming, constant criticism, insults, humiliation, and devaluation prove to be excessively harmful to whoever is on the receiving end of it.
After all, the family should always be a safe and loving place to be. So, when it is not, and the only thing you get is negativity, the results are deep, and sometimes irreparable emotional wounds. When you are made to feel irrelevant, and unimportant by the people who are supposed to love you the most, it can take a heavy toll on your self-love, resulting in emotional wounds that stay with you for your entire life.

3. Emotional wounds that are related to a dearth of affection and love.

When a child does not get to experience affection, love, and support from their parents, they end up having feelings of inadequacy, and isolation. This also leads to an unhealthy craving for affection and becoming dependent on other people for it. Because you haven’t experienced these feelings from your parents, you are always looking to get it from everyone you come across.

This constant need for outside approval turns a lot of people into people-pleasers, as they try to satisfy and please everyone else, and entirely forget about themselves. Your happiness, and everything that you do, depends on what others think, and believe about you. The concepts of self-love and self-confidence become alien to you, and as long as other people are validating you, you feel a sense of accomplishment and happiness.

If you are constantly seeking validation from everyone else, but yourself, how will you ever truly be happy? Yes, what your close ones think about you matters, but what matters more is what you think about yourself, and how much you love and accept yourself. You will never truly be happy if you don’t practice self-love and self-compassion.

These emotional wounds that you have experienced in your childhood can be tough to forget and move on from, but you need to try. Everyone needs to start from somewhere in order to progress, right? The more power you give to these wounds, the more they will stop you from evolving, and growing. Maybe these wounds will always be a part of you, but do you really want them to control your entire life?
Individuals with these negative personality traits often cause toxic relationships.

How do you know the warning signs of a toxic relationship?

Sometimes, it's hard to tell. However, there are a few negative personality traits that are red flags of toxic people.

Those with toxic and negative personality traits can lure you into a false sense of security and then destroy your self-esteem.

Toxic Relationship, Toxic Relationship

In toxic and unhealthy relationships, the victims are often convinced that the problem is them, so they end up taking on board the negative criticisms of a toxic lover.

It can be confusing when you are blamed to be the problem or told that you have all the issues.

You may be in a relationship with a toxic person but are not even aware of it.

When you love someone, you can overlook the warning signs of a toxic relationship.

Toxic partners can be deceptive, on the surface they can look perfect. But, often this is because it is easier to shut off from what is really happening, in order to avoid facing what is really going on.

Here are 8 negative personality traits of a toxic person that can lead to signs of a toxic relationship.

1. They are envious or jealous of you

Do you have a partner who acts polite but underneath they have envy and hate towards you?

They may be secretly competitive or comparing themselves to you. Do they feel pain when you are successful or happy?

Many who feel unsatisfied with their life will hide how disappointed they feel when others have success or share good news.

Toxic partners feel inadequate and cover up by smiling, not say anything or comment on something negative to minimize their disappointment, to prevent the hit to their self-esteem.

They feel like a failure at other peoples success and it highlights how they've not met their own expectations.

It seems unfair that others have done better, its a competition or a race to be best.

You cannot rise above them or they will crush you with destructive envy.

They feel misery for your happiness and may attempt to bring you down to lift themselves up.

2. They criticize or devalue you to rise above you

If you're in a toxic relationship with someone who suffers from a narcissistic personality disorder, they can feel pleasure when they put down the success of others, by defeating them or making devaluing comments so they can rise above them.

So, they do not feel inadequate, they end up criticizing others in order to pick themselves up.

They inflate their self-esteem to convince others of how good they are.

Since they feel superior, they openly disapprove others.

3. They turn the problem around and make it your fault to cover their actions

Toxic people blame others for their mistakes and find ways to cover up their actions so they're never at fault.

They will find a way to turn the problem around to be your fault.

They avoid the humiliation of shame induced judgment, so they distort the truth and avoid taking responsibility to cover up their mistakes.

They do this by finding fault in others, whom they blame for their shortcomings.

They lost their job because their boss was threatened by them, their ex-partner was the crazy one, they cheated because you never gave them sex when they wanted it, you're told that you should get over issues and not bring them up.

It is always the other person's fault and they're perfect.

4. They push their view to prove they're right but never consider your point of view

You may be falsely convinced that they are always right, but they seek admiration when others need them as the expert for advice.

They always know better than anyone else, feeling above others.

When they see others as beneath them, they feel special and it takes away the deflating pain of the empty self.

5. They use you for their own agenda while discarding or bringing you down if you expose them

These toxic lovers pretend to be Mr/Mrs right in order to lure you into a relationship, in order to seek admiring supplies but will discard you or devalue you when their needs are not a priority.

They may even spoil your happiness or success, or talk you down.

You are simply there to give them something they need, such as approval, money, sex, love, support.

After a date, you may not hear from them unless they need something from you.

They pretend to be interested in you as long as they're getting something from you.

Sometimes they just want someone to admire them or inflate the ego when it's deflated.

Other times, they stonewall or withdraw to avoid exposure of not being perfect. So, no one discovers who they really are.

They feel good by promoting themselves and focusing on themselves and acquiring others in order to achieve their aims. 

6. They portray a false persona to mask who they really are

Those with toxic personality traits can charm you into a false sense of trust and security in order to pull the wool over your eyes.

Yet, the toxic relationship feels empty and vacuous since the toxic person cannot reveal anything about their true nature or expose themselves.

They will tell people what they want to hear, and mimic what they need, so they can obtain their own objectives.

The truth will be revealed when they are unable to be emotionally available for the needs of others.

7. They have no empathy or no remorse

They have no empathy or remorse for how they treat people because they feel they have the right to behave in whatever manner meets their own needs, with no regards to others.

When others fail to serve their expectations, they justify cheating or having affairs.

They portray themselves to be kind or pretend to have empathy so that people are there to give them what they need.

You are only wanted if you serve a need for them. Otherwise, your feelings do not matter.

8. They see everyone through their own behavior

Toxic people project their sense of inadequacies onto others, by finding things wrong with others or finding fault in them.

They are delusional and see everyone through their own projections, distorting the way they see others and relate to them.

They see others like them, the part they hide.

They accuse others of cheating, being useless, being selfish or a fraud.

You will be attacked or insulted for things that do not represent you because that's how they see you.

Before you enter a relationship you should know the warning signs of a toxic person.

If you're in a toxic relationship you can learn to not take on board the criticisms, but see the person for who they really are.

If you're in a toxic relationship, you might notice that the toxic partner had parents who were envious and criticized or humiliated them, so they covered their real self.

Some were told they could do no wrong and the world re-evolved around their needs.

They will not take ownership and see the part they play in relationship problems.

They will feel crushed when issues are raised and turn it back on their partner by attacking them or criticizing them.

The partner of a toxic person often feels beaten down and gives up, feeling they're wrong. Many lose themselves completely and sacrifice their own needs and wants.

If you detect the warning signs you're in a toxic relationship with someone with these personality traits, you have to be careful taking on board negative feedback, which may not pertain to you. Your self-esteem can be diminished.

If you can separate yourself from the abuser, you can protect yourself from destructive envy or toxic abuse.

If you see the person as wounded, you can learn to let go of blame or feeling at fault for things that are not your fault.

If you cannot assertively express yourself or raise issues because you get abused, then perhaps you need to consider why you allow yourself to be in a toxic relationship and find out how to have self-love within yourself.

If you identify these toxic personality traits that are warning signals for a toxic relationship then perhaps you need to do something about it.